I'm Feeling Sassy (Sexy)!

I am starting to become more comfortable with my new doo and am actually feeling rather sexy this day...despite what some say. I have actually had an overwhelming number of people say that they are very pleased with my new look...that is after the shock has worn off. They ask me why I have done it, especially when it was all my own. I respond by saying, "I was too attached to it and it was time for a change." That does not necessarily ease their minds, but I can't exactly put it back on for them, and neither would I. I have decided to send what I have cut off to Locks of Love, all 18 or so inches of it. It pleases my heart to know that there are young girls that can make use of something that I have to give.

Pearls of Wisdom:

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central and crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never lose.

Be Blessed!

An Additional Journey

Anyone who knows me knows that I am going through several transitions in life at the moment...one of them my hair. It's not necessarily been a hard challenge or transition, but not an easy one either. I thought for years (and I do mean years) about going natural (stop using relaxers). Well, I finally took the plunge about 4 months ago. Although I have not gotten a relaxer in 4 months, I am a bit skeptical about cutting off the portion of my hair that is still relaxed. Why?

* I've never had really short hair (not sure that I would look right)
* It's taken a long time for it to get to the length it is (lower-back)
* Social acceptance
* Deep down (I don't want to believe this really), what if the fellas don't like it.

Okay, so there is the list (somewhat partial). However, I think that the main reason is social acceptance. At the young age of 7 my family moved from Philadelphia to the suburbs of South Jersey. One being extremely predominately black and the other extremely predominately white. South Jersey was so much so that I was the only black student in my classes until I reached the 7th grade, and out of a graduating high school class of 700, there were at the most about 45 blacks (including those that were mixed, latino and other). Let's do the math...that is less than one percent. On one end I was getting comments like, "Why do you always wear your hair in braids.", "Your hair is so thick and it doesn't lay straight." Those were just the hair comments. Nevermind the other comments like, "Oh my god...you don't shave your legs?" Now, I don't know about women in other areas, but in Philly, the women I knew (black women) were oh natural. I even knew/know men that think that hairy legs are sexy, but perhaps that is a Philly thing (or just some of the people I knew/know thing). Anyhow, on the other end (Philly side) I would get, "You talk like a white girl.", "You act like a white girl."... whatever those statements are supposed to mean. I got comments like that for years and still do for the most part; although now it is just stated and then overlooked. I have come into my own (with the "You sound/act white) statements and know how to handle them now.

But, I am not so sure about the hair. I am choosing to go natural becuase natural is the way that God made me, and the curls (as tight as they are) are quite adorable. I don't know....you all will be on the journey with me, hearing me rant about it every now and again. For now, I have come to the conclusion that I will transition until I am moved to cut off the relaxed portion.

(pre-natural days)

(2 months natural)

(4 month ponytail)

Pearls of Wisdom:
Everyone has the obligation to ponder well his own specific traits of character. He must also regulate them adequately and not wonder whether someone else's traits might suit him better. The more definitely his own a man's character is, the better it fits him. -Cicero

Who's character traits are you trying on besides your own?